Ceramic Chongwen: I hope that the parents praised me (group chart)

　　When middle school I, I specially am at that time mischievous, will often begin to fight with others language disagreement.

　　After having driven 9 years rental car, I do am after a period of time professional the rider. This is in 2008, I am elected for the Olympic torchbearer.

　　My childhood’s picture was few, this was the elementary school 2 and 3 grade pictures.

　　My grandmother Tao Suzhen (1922 – 2001) paternal grandmother was a very simple person, did not look like the grandfather to be so severe, the heart was very thin, was very temperate, had the patience to me very much.

　　My grandfather Tao Chengjia (1919 – 2008) grandfather is a very frank person, is very severe, father about 50, the grandfather was angry will also begin to teach him. However I appreciate grandfather’s disposition very much.

　　My mother Han Jinxiu (in 1954 birth) I thought that mother may result in a Shanghai woman pace-setter absolutely, she paid to be really many for me, she has been very also severe to me.

　　My father Tao Xu Hua (in 1951 birth) I and father exchanged not many, he was an upright honest person, their unit leader said that who and Tao Xu Hua had celebrates a holiday, definitely was who was wrong.

　　My wife Cao one even (in 1982 birth): The my wife biggest merit does not like competing, I bought the name brand she not to use to her. I always praise her in front of others, but I did not praise her in front.

　　Tao Chongwen (in 1979 birth): Does not abandon hungry, never does not say the defeat, this is my pursue.

　　On Sunday news morning paper reporter Dai Zhendong intern Zhou Shixia

　　Tao Chongwen this year is 30 years old, in the past years, in his impression little obtained parents’ direct praise. Often he makes some progress, hopes is approved, the parents always appear very tranquil, then sets a higher request to him. Today, Tao Chongwen thought that all these may understand, because that is the educational mode of parents.

　　Actually, everyone hopes that can obtain the approval and praise from the parental mouth directly, but did not hear the neighbor saying that your father mother went bad for you happily.

　　Actually I very much think them

　　I am born the first month, every day gets a high fever 42°, afterward mother led me to inspect to the hospital, the one who discovered me to contract was one kind of congenital heart disease, moreover my this kind of phenomenon was the domestic first example, at that time my normal palpitation was 270 jumps every minute, when morbidity 360 jumped. When this got sick 12 years old gradually changed for the better, when 16 years old was restored to health thoroughly.

　　My previous 7 years were passed in the hospital, I did not have the too profound memory, was fuzzy. A lot were father and mother afterward told me. I record events am start from the elementary school.

　　Just started to study, first grade and second grade time, because I fall ill cannot on the physical education, the children will discriminate against me. Schoolmate the nickname which takes to me is the sick man of east. Moreover other I and children are different, my one week must go to the hospital subsequent visit several times, sometimes one was admitted to the hospital.

　　Starts from the third grade, I start to jog secretly, around our family there, a person exercises. At that time the guardian and teachers did not know that I steal am practicing. The schoolmates asked that I have heart disease, I said that I was good. Because I do not think that a person sits in the classroom, looks that others play.

　　Has not thought fifth grade time, football team elected the human to give to elect me unexpectedly, the doctor thinks that perhaps the movement can help me to restore. Afterward I have also played grade B league tournament, has become the specialized football player.

　　I think that I cannot be despised by others, others can do I can also do. I hope that obtains everybody’s approval.

　　I fell ill to my parents have created very tremendous pressure. At that time mother every month the wages 36 Yuan, the father was 100 Yuan, but I took a drug every month take 300 Yuan expenses. Our family asked that others borrowed 100,000 Yuan, the father have started out rent a car, every day worked to is very late, mother to render back the money went to Guangzhou to do business.

　　Therefore my parents family, I at that time was not very much can understand them in childhood frequently, why other child father and mother in the side, I actually did not have. I have certainly also made with the father and mother, actually I very much think them, thinks really very much.

　　The once our class and grade has carried on a activity, asks the parents to attend the class meeting and gives the child a gift, that day in the class other schoolmates’ guardians had come, only my mother has not come, but mother has given her gift ahead of time the teacher. For all this, but I am very sad, feels loses.

　　The parents will also fall ill the matter to quarrel for me. Worked the later mother told me, she in the past had even thought of the divorce, thinks that regenerated a child. Because I have several critically ill notices, the department responsible for the work has authorized my mother to regenerate the second embryo.

　　While I grow up, heart disease also gradually changes for the better, but they still for a long time were not at home.

　　My studying result is not good, teacher must look for them, they will quarrel when this time, blames the opposite party you no matter why the child and I must make money to repay a debt ……

　　Quarrels is heavily engaged, even wants the neighbor help them to pull open. In my memory, they quarrelled 99% are for me. Therefore hears them to quarrel, I will get out of the way generally, exit. Could not look that will not be sad. I did not mediate a quarrel, to urge also uselessly, moreover they quarrelled the source are because of me, I are very sad.

　　After on junior middle school, I am very mischievous, has played in outside, sometimes even arrives late 2:00 am. My mother not, for this matter scolded me, to hit me. One days’, I on the going home road, I saw mother bound the down clothing to move a small backless stool to sit in the street intersection waits for me, she saying:Son, you late comes back me to wait for you today, tomorrow will late come back me also to wait, when up to you come back.After this I go home not to surpass the scheduled time again.

　　I also remembered that marries that one day, I hugged my mother to cry on the stage. This is my first hug my mother, that kind of feeling is the language indescribable. This is a very profound emotional exchange, mother spoke a few words: It is not really easy.The father said to me: I did not manage you from now, your also manner parents, your quality you judged.

　　That day I was very depressed

　　Because in the family is in debt, the parents in working with all one’s might to repay a debt, on middle school time I also little have the time to see them. Moreover my result is not at that time good, is very mischievous, the parents held for me were very oversensitive. Our principals had added that and other ceramic Chongwen this batch have graduated, our school may reorganize well, obviously I at that time was how mischievous.

　　I thought that after I start to work truly sensibly. My 18 years old started to work, started out in Johnson & Johnson rents a car. Because I had had congenital heart disease in childhood, obtains in the society the help of many person, I to repay the society, my vehicle also has a feeling grateful rule: Old person over the age of 70 rides my vehicle to be free.

　　The similar 9 years, more than 6000 visitors have ridden my rental car free. My 24 years old are evaluated the traffic department model worker, latter is evaluated the traffic department outstanding youth.

　　At that time the newspaper reported my fact, but the father and mother have not commended me to complete in front, I a little small losing. Afterward I saw the father bought many newspapers to see somebody off, I knew that they were happy.

　　My parents always did not praise me. I once bravely fought the scoundrel, comments the model worker, but also has worked as the Olympic torchbearer, published in a newspaper to ascend very many times, they have not praised me, our family do not have any form celebration. They will set up a higher goal for me each time.

　　When junior middle school, once I played soccer the picture to mount the Xinmin Evening News, that competition I have sneaked in the essential goal. That I anticipated very much they can praise my several, but they do not have, I was very at that time disappointed. The mother said to me: This time is your luck is good, the goal must put next time.

　　Last year I have been the Olympic torchbearer. Elected the torchbearer, the father only said: This is an arduous duty, you may complete, we believe that goes.Other did not have. Before the torch runs, the organizer issues me two distinguished guest admission tickets, only then the directly-related family member may enter the infield, but my parents said that did not look, has anything to be attractive, runs well, we watch the television at home.

　　Must know that can make these two admission tickets many not to be easy, my unit leader and friend of mine had gone that day, they could not have entered the infield. To be honest, I was very depressed that day. Changes the making farewell speech person’s guardian definitely to go.

　　I remembered went out that morning, my father has patted my shoulder, raised up the thumb, said the sentence to me: Runs well.On these three characters, I remembered that in this is he only one time encourages me probably in front.

　　Before I also participate reach agreement Saturday, other honored guests’ parents have arrived, only my parents have not gone. Certainly, I can understand them, this is actually their educational modes. Our family has a parental instruction, my father mentions frequently: Wants the adult, from adult; Manages the adult, the third-rater.My jail has remembered these words, this is my grandfather teaches my father, I will also teach it my child.

　　I did not praise my wife in front of

　　On Sunday: When you must participate the torch runs, your father to you said: This is an arduous duty, you may complete, we believe that goes.Probably a leader is the same with the subordinate speech, do you also use such expression speech at home?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: Sometimes my father spoke likely makes the report to be the same, he hopes that spoke some truths.

　　On Sunday: You thought that your parents do excel to you to express their loves?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: Will have, innermost feelings. But moves to reveal heavily. But I have not thought that runs Olympic torchbearer they not to go. However this also fosters the independent disposition which I have not relied on. I did not anticipate that they praised me in front, I knew they were very arrogant for me.

　　On Sunday: You to them? How you will express your love, will you praise them?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: The meeting, is I now works hard to make money, sometimes lets them go abroad to travel. To be honest, I in spoken language do not reveal the sentiment in front of the parents, but will move on will be quite many. My present each week will go back to see parents, moreover empty-handed will not go back, sometimes I also will buy some vegetable belt pasts. I want to wait for my later home loan to pay off, but must ask the bilateral parents to go abroad to play one time.

　　On Sunday: Your parents and you exchanged way are that tradition, does not heat the fire pattern, little encouragement and praise in front, will you attempt to make some changes?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: No. I thought that this way of my parents is very good, I am very at least successful.

　　On Sunday: Do you rely on your family?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: I very much do not rely on to the family. The past was this, now I had my family, this. Next year to welcome World Expo, I must drive to visit the Chinese border, goes is a half year, is very dangerous, I not too many fetters. My wife in marriage the time and I said: You felt relieved that does your matter, in the family matter I all helps you to keep off.Success the behind has an obscure support woman, she is this obscure support woman. I heard her to say this saying time, thought that I elected to the human.

　　On Sunday: Will you praise your wife in front of?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: I never have to praise her in front. But I in front of the bystander, I frequently praised my wife. Sometimes I knew that she does very well, I will use the material reward she, for instance buys package anything.

　　On Sunday: You had mentioned your parental instruction, between communication method your grandfather and is the father also such?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: The grandfather is a very frank person, is very severe. My father is 50 years old, the grandfather will begin to hit him. I must come up to urge the grandfather to consider as finished. But grandfather kind of frank disposition I like.

　　On Sunday: Will you later also use such way to your child?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: The children I think that should raise painstakingly, has words to call, poor family’s children early manage a household. Said very profoundly, the child cannot fill in a big way in the syrup. The later my child does not need to send and pick up, wants on to leave class, I will be very severe to my child.

　　On Sunday: Chats your present’s condition, in your ideal should be what kind of person?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: I want to make one usefully to society human. Completely my endeavor, my family member may be happier, the friend of mine may be happier, all understandings and did not know because the people I may be better.

　　On Sunday: Can be more concrete? What person for instance has is you hopes that becomes?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: I want to become Cheng Long such person. He in childhood was also very bitter, through his unceasing endeavor, the enterprise which his achievement he and present had. But he does not limit to his enterprise, he used his interpersonal relationship to serve well well the society. Grasps many personal connections, many resources, realizes dream, for instance Cheng Long makes the charity.

　　On Sunday: Cheng Long’s family life do you understand?

　　Ceramic Chongwen: I knew that Cheng Long does to have regarding the family is short, he did right 80%. But he regarding society’s sense of responsibility is indisputable. Therefore I think that Cheng Long succeeds. For me, community responsibility is more important than the family. Because has the country to have the family.

　　 (This article originates: News morning paper)